i LOVE facebook.
[and i hate it too dont get it twisted]
i recently caught up with an old high school friend the other day and we immediately started catching up.
there seemed to be one particular person that i wondered about who instantly made me sad when i heard her story.
we all went to a high school for the arts, so making it big was always the focus of our goals when we went to our arts classes. there was this one girl in particular, very pretty, had a lot going for her, even overcame obstacles with ease, the type of girl you loved to hate in high school.
she was a singer/dancer and along with her beauty could have had the world in her hands.
last i heard, she was perusing her dream of becoming a recording artist. even had a couple song out on the radio and a video. i used to follow her career online too, via myspace, youtube and her blog and was happy to see she was in New York (where i always wanted to be) pursuing her dream. i sometimes lived vicariously through her, she was such a strong and amazing personality, so i totally pulled from that.
but then something changed…she stopped updating her myspace and her blog posts started getting nasty and mean. i kind of got the impression that she was starting to resent other artists for “making it” before her – insulting them and belittling their talents. there was just too much negative energy for me, so i stopped reading her blog.
so catching up with this old friend, i asked about this particular person and what she said shocked me:
“***** makes me sad because she has lost herself so much so that’s it’s beginning to drive her crazy. I wouldn’t be surprised if she gets diagnosed with personality disorder or manic depression. I pray someone intervenes and saves her from herself…”
this is my worst fear for ANYONE pursuing a career in the entertainment industry. getting so consumed that you LOSE yourself. i would never tell anyone not to chase their dream, but if you work 100% for a year and you are still in the same situation that you were 365 days ago, something has to change. and it could be anything – attitude, location, strategy, whatever. if after that, you go 100% for another year and you are still in a bad place, self reality checks must be made.
i don’t really want to speak on this anymore than i should, because everyone’s situation is different, but we always seem to hear the success stories but never the tragic stories of people losing family, friends, large amounts money and unfortunately their sanity in the pursuit of becoming famous.
~lissa
Related posts:
- testimonial tuesday [002]: she’s out of my life
- testimonial tuesday [001]: he’s a keeper
- testimonial tuesday [003]: family ties
- sweet dreams are made of this: sexual assault
WHAT TO DO NOW?